I love quilts! I have always loved quilts. The new header is made with photographs from a quilt in our guestroom from my Grandmother's collection. Nick has a forest themed one on his bed and we have a quilt too. People don't often know that about me but deep down inside I would like to be a quilter, a seamstress and a knitter. I love watching projects come together. Being a task oriented person, I like to see the start, middle and finish.....accomplished! I remember my mom sewing our dresses, shirts, etc. She would cut the patterns, measure, sew, try it on, rip out a seam here or there, start over, even sit it on the machine for a while when other things were a priority, but she almost always finished a project.
I loved seeing the finished project, even more, I was proud to wear what she had sometimes labored late into the night to make me for such and such occasion. At least in my early youth, I proudly wore "mom" originals vs. JC Penney or Sears. I think my mom enjoyed sewing for us.....you find the pattern, envision it on your kid, purchase it, create it, finish it and then enjoy your work. I love that imagery.
David wrote that God is that kind of creator.....He formed our inward parts and wove us in our mother's womb, fearfully and wonderfully made us. He has a vision for us, a plan. Just like a pattern that is cut out, pinned down, and then sewed together, our life unfolds and is pieced together by the God of the universe. I think that is why I like quilts. Pieces from all cuts of fabric put together in a way that forms something even more beautiful. Just like our lives in God's hands.
I don't think when I graduated from high school a mere 25 years ago, YIKES, that I could have ever imagined the quilt that my life would become.....many colleges, many states, many jobs, married at 35, adopt a son at 39 and so on. I had it all patterned out, I thought my quilt, my life would have looked you know, more "normal" but really what does that mean? I wouldn't trade one bend in the road, one mountain climbed, one trial or one tear to get to the life I have now. (well, maybe a few weight battles I could have done without but I digress...) I had lots of dreams, lots of plans, lots of desires that I was ready to accomplish. Some have changed, some have yet to be fulfilled, and some have been accomplished.
I found the verse that I had my sweet friend and blog designer Kim put on the side when I was thinking on our new journey. A desire accomplished is sweet to the soul. There have been lots of things that I have desired or wanted over the years. Some of them I made happen.... like singing do-re-mi on the same steps that Julie Andrews sang on in Austria, check, going to Oberammergau, Germany for the Passion play, check, Ireland, check (yes, most of them involved travelling), but the other desires were just completely a God thing..... a husband, way better than I could have dreamed up, and Children.....now this is where it gets good.
You see I have always wanted to adopt as long as I can remember. I have always known people who adopted and who had been adopted. I especially remember babysitting these 2 little girls who were so sweet and so beautiful and they were both adopted. I remember some kind of ministry presentation that their parents gave regarding adoption and their birth country. I begged my parents to adopt after that....I said I would help my mom take care of the baby...please,please! Yeah, that didn't happen....my parents probably thought I was a little off my rocker but I never lost my heart, my desire, to adopt. I used to say I was going to adopt all the kids from the Jesus loves the little children song....red and yellow, black and white, they are precious in His sight....that song is sooo politically incorrect now but they are still precious in His sight. Fast forward many, many years (way more than I expected) to Pat and I deciding that it was time for parenthood. Of course, we figured it would happen the old-fashioned way and when it didn't, they almost immediately send you to fertility specialist because, well, we were "old". I can honestly say from the very first meeting with the Doctor, we were ill at ease. I knew that God was in control of my womb and He could figure all "that " stuff out, we frankly were not that worried about it. Now, it is not that we were not a little sad that we were not going to immediately have an unusually tall, red-head running around but it just seemed OK to us. I think I even knew at that point that God was going to help me fulfill my desire to adopt.
We (well, really I...cuz that's how we women roll) started stalking the internet for adoption sites, waiting children, and THEN.....dun,dun,dun!!! I discovered blogs! Stories after stories of adoptive families taking their journeys to and from some land afar. I became a little obsessive, ok, alot obsessive with google searches and the internet. I searched far and wide for an agency that went to the country where the two little girls were from that I cared for so many years ago when this desire started but their country was closed to adoptions. Here is where God is so fun, you see, I had this weird high school and college fascination with the "USSR". I don't have the foggiest where that one began but I always wanted to travel there and learn to speak Russian, etc. It may have even started as early as elementary school when I played a Russian dancer while we sang silent night in Russian. I got to wear a real Russian hat that we borrowed from a lady who had actually been there. I remember my dad telling me that I couldn't go there because he worked for McDonnell Douglas on a proprietary program and they wouldn't let his family members go there. Cold war and all. Of course, I was even more intrigued! ha! Fast forward 20 some years later and the agency we had chosen highly recommended a former soviet republic, in fact the largest of the former republics, Kazakhstan. Oh, yeah, and we were going to have to learn Russian as well as Kazakh to speak to our child and get around. Is God amazing or what!? He even cares about those desires we think are just silly or unattainable.
So, fast forward again to 3 years later and we are starting to "think" that we might expand our family once more (again, the age thing is killin us....about to age out of the system in a few years...well, at least Pat is, ha!) and you know what, that first country that was closed is now, 3 years later, OPEN! That country is Ecuador and yes, family and friends, we are adopting again. We are done with the first stages (homestudy, etc) and now begin the dossier paper chase to adopt one older (3-6 most likely) boy or girl or (big breath, and panic look from Pat) possibly a sibling set of 2 from South America...Ay caramba! and I say, A desire accomplished is sweet to the soul! I will do another post on all the amazing "coincidences" (NOT!) that have occured to confirm our journey to Ecuador but that will take another whole evening to unload!
I feel so blessed and although we are scared silly to open up our family again to the chaos, the pain, the heartache that is adoption. The flip side of adoption is the most amazing, joy and laughter filled, tear-invoking journey we have ever experienced so we are ready to face the challenge. I have never encountered a journey that will show you the heart of God and His love for us like adoption. I tell you it will change you forever.
So, on to the mundane, our lives are filled with paperwork and more paperwork; Nick is excited to welcome a brother or sister. At first he wanted a brother but now he comments regularly on both.....using And instead of Or. He comes up with names weekly, we have just moved from Nathan to Butch and the girls names have been Rainbow, and Snowflake and one I can't remember but it was equally as "hippie" because I said that and then had to explain what "hippie" was to Nick which probably is why I can't remember what he originally said. I will say we have seen a few behavior changes in Nick that could possibly be related to the pending changes but we have already scheduled some meetings with a counselor who specializes in attachment and adoption so that we stay ahead of the game while we are in the process.
For any of the inquiring minds who "want to know", Ecuador is a Hague-country which basically means extra paperwork but all in all the requirements were developed for the safety of the children which can't be all that bad, can it? We shall see..... Funny enough, Ecuador is a long stay country too. We have been told up to 8 weeks! There is really only one agency, maybe two who are allowed to adopt out of Ecuador and they came highly recommended. Ecuador mostly places older children internationally which is fine with us. We are just way past the baby thing....although, we are not discounting the whole Abraham and Sarah thing....God is able. We just would like to be able to attend their graduations without a walker! ;) We will get a referral this time and be a little more "in the know" for this adoption. Not as many surprises in the age and gender categories but of course, there are always surprises in adoption. Once the dossier is done, we were given a big expected time frame of 3-18 months. We are good with that range either way. Second time around some of those things don't seem nearly as worrisome especially because we know time lines and dates mean absolutely nothing in the world of adoption.....can I get an Amen! from the crowd! ;)
I did not blog this early along in the process to adopt Nick so this will be a new one for me. Hopefully, you will join us in prayer for our journey and our chid(ren) who wait for us. We are going to go public again for a few months to allow some new readers to join the journey (and to get them adjusted to this whole blog thing) but we will go private again once things get rolling.
Sorry, this was so long but I wanted to get the whole thing down in writing for remembrance purposes. I really love to look back and see all the pieces falling into place just as God planned.....now onto the next piece of our quilt! By the way, I found our family friends in STL that I babysat for on FB and they and the "girls" (all grown up and married!) are planning to follow the journey with us....how cool is that!
Saturday, April 24, 2010
Sunday, April 18, 2010
Spring has Sprung and I'm already behind!
Seriously! Is April almost over......what happened? It will be June before I know it and I haven't even ordered the welcome bags for Kazapalooza, tshirt design is in progress and estimates are out on Lanyards (those things you wear around your neck) and nametags......aaaaaaah, running.out.of.time! :)
We finally celebrated Nick's birthday with a few friends.....not an official party but fun none-the-less at the C.Cheesey! Logan, Peyton, Nick and Libby had a grand time running around in all the chaos.


Pat's folks came for a long weekend in March to help with some planting....Dogwood, and two Rhododendrons.....I love color so we are excited as they bloom. It seems so easy to get those "overdue" chores done when we have the grandparents in town.....very thankful!

We finally celebrated Nick's birthday with a few friends.....not an official party but fun none-the-less at the C.Cheesey! Logan, Peyton, Nick and Libby had a grand time running around in all the chaos.
Pat's folks came for a long weekend in March to help with some planting....Dogwood, and two Rhododendrons.....I love color so we are excited as they bloom. It seems so easy to get those "overdue" chores done when we have the grandparents in town.....very thankful!
The weather has been awesome this spring but the pollen count is killin us! We have played out as much as we can stand (I started allergy shots...trying to get some help) and here was one of our group playdates ......for some reason they all thought it was fun to get in the outside tool bin....containment is always nice! :)

We were invited to my good friend Carrie's parent's house for their yearly easter egg hunt. It was awesome....truly egg overload. Nick had a great time and next year we will probably have to stay and eat too.....Carrie's mom was appalled that we didn't stay and eat......we won't deny her next year....reminds me of my grandma. If she couldn't feed ya, then don't come over! :)



We went to church for easter and then headed to Richmond to visit with Aunt Wanda and Uncle Jub. We were early so we stopped and took some pictures on EKU's campus......I just love tulips!


We were invited to my good friend Carrie's parent's house for their yearly easter egg hunt. It was awesome....truly egg overload. Nick had a great time and next year we will probably have to stay and eat too.....Carrie's mom was appalled that we didn't stay and eat......we won't deny her next year....reminds me of my grandma. If she couldn't feed ya, then don't come over! :)
We went to church for easter and then headed to Richmond to visit with Aunt Wanda and Uncle Jub. We were early so we stopped and took some pictures on EKU's campus......I just love tulips!
We spent another great spring day with our friends at the Kite festival. The wind was not ideal for great kite flying but it was an awesome day weather-wise. We had a picnic lunch and lots of playtime with Brian, Amy and Logan.




We are planning a garden with friends! Our friend Carrie's grandpa (poppy) has kindly offered his property for us to revitalize his garden from years past. It is an awesome plot centrally located in town with lots of "boy" activities to do as well. I can see lots of spring and summer weeknights and weekends gardening with our friends. We have about 6 families participating. Nick and his friend Mikey were in HEAVEN as they hammered old wood, climbed sawdust and mulch piles, and "helped" us clear out the weeds and dig! So much fun for a little boy!
We are planning a garden with friends! Our friend Carrie's grandpa (poppy) has kindly offered his property for us to revitalize his garden from years past. It is an awesome plot centrally located in town with lots of "boy" activities to do as well. I can see lots of spring and summer weeknights and weekends gardening with our friends. We have about 6 families participating. Nick and his friend Mikey were in HEAVEN as they hammered old wood, climbed sawdust and mulch piles, and "helped" us clear out the weeds and dig! So much fun for a little boy!
Saturday, February 27, 2010
Happy 6th birthday to you!
Three years ago last week, we celebrated Nick's 3rd birthday with him in Kazakhstan. We had balloons and a cookie.....that is about all they would let us give him! Below is a picture of his third birthday in Kstan!
I have been going back thru the pictures and looking at the then and nows and here are some from the same day (27th and 28th of Feb) three years ago. One of my favorite all time pics is this one of Pat and Nick. Nick was not too fond of dad in the beginning but wow, how that has changed. He is the biggest fan (besides me) of his father that could exist. He loves him so much and I am so thankful for the relationship that they share as he gets older.
This picture just cracks me up. He was so serious, hardly ever smiled. Here he had my sunglasses on and his little smirk that we came to know really well in Kaz. So cute!
Nick has changed so much in 3 years. He was about 37 inches when we brought him home and now he is 46 and 1/2 inches (9 1/2 inches he has grown!!). His weight dropped after we got him to 28 pounds and now he is 48 pounds! Crazy, I know! He has gone from never talking only grunting to big words, like "extraordinary, awesome, buenos dias, banyo, stupendous!" He has in 6 months gone from barely being able to write his name to bubble letters.....see below!

He has gone from 3 stick figures to star wars scenes and very detailed drawings of his amazing imagination. The first pic is of an X wing fighter....

This one is of jedi fighters with light sabers and maybe guys with guns? that look like axes? :) I have definitely seen more advanced pics from his friends but I love that he gives his faces emotion with the eyebrows and sends bullets from his swords and guns (sound waves, tears, and radiating light in other pics).

He has most recently taken a liking to Pie (key lime, pumpkin, whatever) which is fun since we like pies too. Now, I need to get him to try fruit pie so we can expand our fruit likes past apples and bananas. I hope his 6th year brings him more veggie varieties too. He will eat what you give him but he hasn't found one yet that he just likes to eat. Just like his name sake Grandpa Carmon, the boy can put away the ice cream. He now has tried chocolate and prefers that when given a choice but loves vanilla too.
He has gone from 3 stick figures to star wars scenes and very detailed drawings of his amazing imagination. The first pic is of an X wing fighter....
This one is of jedi fighters with light sabers and maybe guys with guns? that look like axes? :) I have definitely seen more advanced pics from his friends but I love that he gives his faces emotion with the eyebrows and sends bullets from his swords and guns (sound waves, tears, and radiating light in other pics).
He has most recently taken a liking to Pie (key lime, pumpkin, whatever) which is fun since we like pies too. Now, I need to get him to try fruit pie so we can expand our fruit likes past apples and bananas. I hope his 6th year brings him more veggie varieties too. He will eat what you give him but he hasn't found one yet that he just likes to eat. Just like his name sake Grandpa Carmon, the boy can put away the ice cream. He now has tried chocolate and prefers that when given a choice but loves vanilla too.
This year for his birthday, we had plans for an afternoon playdate at Chuck E Cheese (no crowd) and a small celebration. Instead, Nick got strep throat and had to be at home so I stole an idea from a friend in St Louis who does scavenger hunts for Christmas presents and we made one up for Nick to find his presents from mom and dad. We had 6 small ones, so I wrapped them up, did clues, and wrote out our message to him on each bag so he would have to put them in order at the end to get his message. We took pictures of all the stages so enjoy.....



Yes, he does actually act this peppy and happy with Strep.....the fever only slowed him down slightly.......but, we will take whatever we can get! ;)
We grabbed some cupcakes from my fav bakery and he was plenty happy to eat the icing! Hopefully, I will get to make him some more for a belated celebration in the coming weeks.
It was a good day all in all even with the Strep. He had to stay home one more day to get a full dose of antibiotics in and then he went back to school only to be home again on Thurs with a snow day. We have had 7 snow days this year which is very rare but the one this week was totally lame. I am so ready for spring and outside play.....he just needs his outdoor activity and large muscle activity to keep us all sane! :)
We had one extremely bright spot on our snow day and that was a trip to the airport to welcome home Benjamin (Benny) McIntyre from Korea! My sweet friend Kim and her hubs have been waiting for a long time for their daughter from China (they started before we left for Kaz) and were able to finally do a concurrent adoption with Korea for their new son. He is a pumpkin and a half. We are so overjoyed for them. They will be awesome parents and I just love to see more babies get their forever home! Woo Hoo!
Nick was acting all "shy" and silly but oooo, can't you just squeeze that sweet little Benny to pieces! So excited for them to grow up together.
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Hopefully, next week will be a full school week with no sickness and no snow. I'm really praying hard! :) I can't believe it is March already! Seriously, time is flying! We have Gotcha day festivities and Pat's folks coming to town along with a "just Girls" trip to a "Drive in, diners and Dives" eatery here in Kentucky.....I think it is our only one so far, at least the only one the food network has been too......so excited to go! Love that show! Happy March everyone!
Saturday, January 23, 2010
Let's try again....
Blogger is making me crazy since they updated their editor. For some reason it changes how pictures show up on my blog and you cannot move them around with just a click. I have tried with and without the new version and it doesn't seem to matter. So, when you don't have much to blog about it makes it just as easy to walk away.....thus the hiatus!
We are finally back in a routine with the holidays, snowdays and MLK day, Nick has yet to have a full week of school. I have hope for next week but there is snow expected and well, you know what an inch of snow can do....complete devastation, I know!
Nick has had a few bad days because of this lack of routine or just generally being 5 I guess. We have had broken glasses (on purpose), screaming fits a plenty, and even hair pulling and hitting. Now, lest you worry he is having problems at school, no, no, it is only mom that is the hearer and receiver of all that is the "other" Nick. Since he really has come so far and these fits are far and few between, I think I handle them with less patience because it is just so out of nowhere.....I am starting to dislike any change in routine very much.
He has started OT and I just wish his awesome OT's Julie and Ariana could explain all that they are working on with Nick. The best I can describe it is Sensory related....visual integation and motor planning are two buzz words they are using. I look forward to our next meeting with them so they can give me the layman's term for how to explain what they are doing. He is in group therapy. They have found that this age child seems to have success with doing it together with others. It is a group of all boys. Nick is the only adopted child but they all have similar sensory issues. One of the things they are assessing with him is whether or not he still has some of the primal reflexes in place at birth that go away as a child develops. While biological children can have this for sure, they definitely see it in some adopted children because of the lack of sensory, simulating input during the baby years. It is all so interesting to me. I am reading two books that they recommended, the Sensational kid, and Physical Activities for Improving Children's Learning and Behavior (A guide to Sensory Motor Development).
Nick just received his 2nd quarter report card and it was glowing. We are so proud. He has come so far with his writing that I would say he is pretty much on target. Surprisingly but not really, he got some exceeding expectations this time. One area was Phonemic Awareness....rhymes, sound blending, beginning and ending sounds, etc. I have to say that I swear by the leap frog video series, letter factory, word factory, etc. They are the greatest tools to make this kind of learning fun and I think his report card shows that it helped him catch up. In that area specifically, he is already at the end of the year benchmark (expectation). Woo, Hoo for our boy! He is also reading more and more. He even got some exceeding expectations in spanish. I am just so happy with the school and all that it has done to spur Nick on and also give him the awesome chance to be bilingual again.
Since Christmas, he has also discovered thru his new cartridges, more advanced games on the leapster. They keep him mesmerized (batman and star wars) as well as now loving educational computer games on the computer. We have had to start limiting time on these apparati due to his new "love". We are keeping it educational only for as long as possible.....he has plenty of years later to discover the other mindless junk.
Nick is currently into the whole phase of WHY. He questions everything and it is taking every ounce of my patience to get thru a ride to or from school or anywhere else for that matter these days. I love his questions but he is never satisfied with the answer and you can just "hear" the little wheels in his head going, and going, and going.....he has the energizer bunny brain. Sometimes, Pat and I can be heard saying "just stop talking" or "you cannot fully understand that at your age Nick" ....kind of funny but not so when you are in the car for a really long trip!! :)
His latest inquiry that amazed me was him trying to figure out how we can love God first and not toys. Seriously, he went on and on for 30 minutes while we were driving around town trying to explain to me that it was impossible to put God number one in his brain when he loved toys so much and that he didn't want to "kick" God out of his brain but he just loved his toys so much he couldn't "kick" them out. As I tried to explain how we could really enjoy other things alot as long as we put God and our family as our first love, he just continued to argue. I will need to look up several verses for him to have on his wall to look at about the subject but really, he is just 5...why do I have to argue theology at 5? DO they have Kindegarten Seminary too? :)
Speaking of growing up and thinking of "older" things, he and his friend Libby came out of class the other day and declared that they had kissed and that they were getting married when they are 17. And, Libby, announced at home to her parents that not only are they getting married but they are adopting from Mexico! It cracked us up and made us panic all at once. Apparently, Kristina and her husband said the same thing Pat and I did at the dinner table which was, you can't kiss until your are married because there are just too many germs! ha! Also, Libby's dad stipulated that they had skipped the whole process of Nick asking permission from him to have Libby's hand in marriage...and Libby responded...."but why?" Cracks me up! The sweet thing is Nick tells us often that he is going to grow up and be a daddy and adopt and have us over to a "feast". We hear this often and it just melts my heart. Last night at dinner, he told us when we were grandparents to this child he is adopting that he will buy us birthday gifts. Rocking chairs for each of us and Knitting for me. We almost choked on our food. So funny! He did say he would get Knitting for Pat if he wanted it too. So, interesting since neither of his grandparents rock or knit at this point. :)
I just mailed off our third post adoption and last social worker written report. We made our trek to the capitol for the Apostille and took Libby and her mom with us for an outing. They had fun although the glasses breaking incident happened on our journey home. They got a first hand experience with the "other" Nick. Bless their hearts! :) I personally think it was the homemade chocolates that we bought at Rebecca Ruth's candy shop near the Capitol building. Sugar is not our friend some days! We got a few pictures from the outing below....
We are finally back in a routine with the holidays, snowdays and MLK day, Nick has yet to have a full week of school. I have hope for next week but there is snow expected and well, you know what an inch of snow can do....complete devastation, I know!
Nick has had a few bad days because of this lack of routine or just generally being 5 I guess. We have had broken glasses (on purpose), screaming fits a plenty, and even hair pulling and hitting. Now, lest you worry he is having problems at school, no, no, it is only mom that is the hearer and receiver of all that is the "other" Nick. Since he really has come so far and these fits are far and few between, I think I handle them with less patience because it is just so out of nowhere.....I am starting to dislike any change in routine very much.
He has started OT and I just wish his awesome OT's Julie and Ariana could explain all that they are working on with Nick. The best I can describe it is Sensory related....visual integation and motor planning are two buzz words they are using. I look forward to our next meeting with them so they can give me the layman's term for how to explain what they are doing. He is in group therapy. They have found that this age child seems to have success with doing it together with others. It is a group of all boys. Nick is the only adopted child but they all have similar sensory issues. One of the things they are assessing with him is whether or not he still has some of the primal reflexes in place at birth that go away as a child develops. While biological children can have this for sure, they definitely see it in some adopted children because of the lack of sensory, simulating input during the baby years. It is all so interesting to me. I am reading two books that they recommended, the Sensational kid, and Physical Activities for Improving Children's Learning and Behavior (A guide to Sensory Motor Development).
Nick just received his 2nd quarter report card and it was glowing. We are so proud. He has come so far with his writing that I would say he is pretty much on target. Surprisingly but not really, he got some exceeding expectations this time. One area was Phonemic Awareness....rhymes, sound blending, beginning and ending sounds, etc. I have to say that I swear by the leap frog video series, letter factory, word factory, etc. They are the greatest tools to make this kind of learning fun and I think his report card shows that it helped him catch up. In that area specifically, he is already at the end of the year benchmark (expectation). Woo, Hoo for our boy! He is also reading more and more. He even got some exceeding expectations in spanish. I am just so happy with the school and all that it has done to spur Nick on and also give him the awesome chance to be bilingual again.
Since Christmas, he has also discovered thru his new cartridges, more advanced games on the leapster. They keep him mesmerized (batman and star wars) as well as now loving educational computer games on the computer. We have had to start limiting time on these apparati due to his new "love". We are keeping it educational only for as long as possible.....he has plenty of years later to discover the other mindless junk.
Nick is currently into the whole phase of WHY. He questions everything and it is taking every ounce of my patience to get thru a ride to or from school or anywhere else for that matter these days. I love his questions but he is never satisfied with the answer and you can just "hear" the little wheels in his head going, and going, and going.....he has the energizer bunny brain. Sometimes, Pat and I can be heard saying "just stop talking" or "you cannot fully understand that at your age Nick" ....kind of funny but not so when you are in the car for a really long trip!! :)
His latest inquiry that amazed me was him trying to figure out how we can love God first and not toys. Seriously, he went on and on for 30 minutes while we were driving around town trying to explain to me that it was impossible to put God number one in his brain when he loved toys so much and that he didn't want to "kick" God out of his brain but he just loved his toys so much he couldn't "kick" them out. As I tried to explain how we could really enjoy other things alot as long as we put God and our family as our first love, he just continued to argue. I will need to look up several verses for him to have on his wall to look at about the subject but really, he is just 5...why do I have to argue theology at 5? DO they have Kindegarten Seminary too? :)
Speaking of growing up and thinking of "older" things, he and his friend Libby came out of class the other day and declared that they had kissed and that they were getting married when they are 17. And, Libby, announced at home to her parents that not only are they getting married but they are adopting from Mexico! It cracked us up and made us panic all at once. Apparently, Kristina and her husband said the same thing Pat and I did at the dinner table which was, you can't kiss until your are married because there are just too many germs! ha! Also, Libby's dad stipulated that they had skipped the whole process of Nick asking permission from him to have Libby's hand in marriage...and Libby responded...."but why?" Cracks me up! The sweet thing is Nick tells us often that he is going to grow up and be a daddy and adopt and have us over to a "feast". We hear this often and it just melts my heart. Last night at dinner, he told us when we were grandparents to this child he is adopting that he will buy us birthday gifts. Rocking chairs for each of us and Knitting for me. We almost choked on our food. So funny! He did say he would get Knitting for Pat if he wanted it too. So, interesting since neither of his grandparents rock or knit at this point. :)
I just mailed off our third post adoption and last social worker written report. We made our trek to the capitol for the Apostille and took Libby and her mom with us for an outing. They had fun although the glasses breaking incident happened on our journey home. They got a first hand experience with the "other" Nick. Bless their hearts! :) I personally think it was the homemade chocolates that we bought at Rebecca Ruth's candy shop near the Capitol building. Sugar is not our friend some days! We got a few pictures from the outing below....

The crazy blogger won't let me write between the posted pictures so I will talk about Christmas at the end. We had a great time in Wisconsin. There was tons of snow to sled and stomp around in for days. It almost kept a few of the Siblings away but they all being native Wisconsinites made it without much fanfair and panic.....good thing they didn't grow up in Ky. They would have declared a national emergency and called off Christmas! :) Nick had a fabulous time with his cousins and as he followed Dakota (15) everywhere so little Colin (1) followed Nick. It was mutual hero worship all around. Nick was getting a little testy with Colin towards the end of the week (that whole lack of routine and schedule thing) and Colin wanted most anything that Nick had his hands on. Star Wars stuff was everywhere and Colin placed his snack cup on top of one of Nick's prized "boxes" from the star wars vehicles. Nick came in, saw the cup and with much disgust and despair, removed the cup from the top of "his" toy box and declared "COLIN, THERE ARE NOOOO CUPS IN STAR WARS!!!!!!" It was so loud and out of the blue that we all heard him and it took a long time for us all to quit laughing....Colin was stunned and just giggled which he did often when Nick was trying to explain the finer points of "playing" star wars to a one year old. It was classic. I am sure that will be a phrase we bring up at the Kitzman gatherings for years to come.
Well, I am sure there are more updates I need to include but I can't be sure this is even going to post so I am going to stop for now. We have all of our Anniversaries and Nick's birthday coming up in the next 3 months so life and blogging should get a little more exciting....maybe.
Our hearts are so heavy with the Haiti earthquakes....all of the orphans just break our heart as well as the loss of life. Our church is doing several different things as they were already doing mission work in Haiti before so luckily there is already people in country that we can funnel our donations and help to at this tragic time. The one good thing to come out of all this is that many orphans are being approved to finally skip the crazy red tape that has kept many of them from joining their new familis for months and years even. I just get all teary everytime I see the babies coming home to their families in the recent news reports. Always good to see the good that God brings amongst all the tragedy. I read a blog by a family working in Haiti and they remarked the other day how everyone sees the chaos and despair that has really been Haiti for a long time and they wonder who is in charge, and they said that they know exactly who is in charge amidst all this chaos and it is God. Their reports have been so heart wrenching yet so full of hope for these people that you can tell they love with all their hearts. I think I can understand a bit of their hope for these people because once you have lived among a different culture than your own, they become a part of you, that part that affects how you perceive the world. It changes you. You cease to see the government corruption, the bad and the ugly, the differences, you stop playing the blame game and you start to see how God made us all in His image and we are ALL precious to Him and you begin to love them accordingly. We pray for those precious ones that God made in His Image....
Saturday, December 12, 2009
Christmas time already??
Wasn't it just Halloween? Thanksgiving flew by (and turkeys don't fly, do they?) but not before we had an awesome low key (well, if anything with Nick can be low key) thanksgiving at home with Pat cooking and extra special guests Dasha and Al. We met Dasha several years ago thru another Kaz adoptive family. She and another student, Dalel, have become a great part of our extended family as they are students here from Kazakhstan. Dasha and Dalel are now married but not to each other so we have an even greater extended family. Al is from Tajikistan and boy does he know central Asian history. So interesting. It was Al's first Thanksgiving feast. I told him ours was pretty tame compared to some big family gatherings but we had PLENTY! I even tried my hand at Russian Compote.....I mixed lots of berries and we had it warm...it was really yummy! Dasha made some great homemade fudge that we loved and Nick probably ate too much of because our game time was full of fireworks and drama. I'm sure Dasha and Al have never played a game of Trouble like that before....well, any game for that matter! :) It was a great way to spend Thanksgiving!

And, now I am getting ready to pack for Christmas?? What happened? Time SLOW down!
I truly can't believe this year has gone by so quickly. The holidays go by so fast now that they smoosh them all together. We saw Christmas stuff out at halloween?? Are you kidding? Well, regardless, it's here, isn't it. We have had a harder time this year keeping the toy count down. Nick is so into imaginative play with figures and accessories. I love the imaginext toys as does he. His other obsession of late is star wars figures. He has not seen the movie yet but boy does he like the action "figgers" as Nick would say. Nick has been a little crazy over what to get for Christmas....keeps changing his mind. So I just told him that mom and dad know what he likes so he will be surprised and like it! We have been also working on the " oh, thank you for this gift face" vs " why did you get me this stupid gift face"....he is getting pretty good at it! ;)
I am so ready to bring in some new toys and donate or sell the old that I have been a little less "grinch" this year and am allowing some extra toy purchases because I think they will last us a few more years with only a few accessory purchases maybe. We continue to get leapster 2 accessories as this is our Car toy of the century. We love it. He loves it. We have talked much about the reason for Christmas and he totally gets it so we are already starting to leave Santa out of the equation. I just don't feel there is that big of a need to get him all wrapped up in well, a lie, when he doesn't necessarily believe it anyway since he has only been here for half of his years so far. I want him to believe in the love and spirit of the season and just see Santa as one of the parts of the holiday like he does the easter bunny, etc. He has been so cute trying to explain to Amigo, our really old shepherd mix, the story of Jesus' birth and the reason for Christmas. Migs is such a willing listener even if he is hard of hearing! :)
Nick had his first Christmas performance at the elementary level and it was cute. My camera was totally not working and couldn't get the picture right no matter what....kept making the pictures dark. I am sure it was the operator but I couldn't for the life of me figure out what I was doing wrong......supposed to be a point and shoot?? not so sure.
It is funny how different things affect me since we have adopted. For example, when I could tell Nick was looking for me from his place on stage and then he found me and waved. All I could think was he's "attached" and it made me so happy....even almost 3 years later....it made me so happy.

He was really singing and performing this year. In times past, he was a silent performer with occasional movement but he was really interacting this time.
As I said before we are going to try and phase Santa out as the main center piece of the holiday but we have started the tradition of going to the Kentucky Horse park for their light show and train exhibit and well, Santa was there so why not. I don't think he really told him what he wanted because he kept telling us that he wanted to be "Naughty!" Yes, son ,but you have never needed Santa's help for that! :) But, I digress, we thought we were going to have to leave because they made the Santa line right next to this obnoxious booth of scented Rocks (think Yankee candle store) and Nick was hilarious. He thought they smelled so bad (they did) and strong that he wouldn't stand there. He seems to be very sensitive to smells and really could not focus......so we moved away and left daddy in line. Great daddy! We got an awesome pic with this not very good Santa.....his other facial hair is totally showing?? hello?! beard that fits please!
I just think Nick is so darn handsome and boy does he look like a big boy now. Just precious still!

We are currently taking Flat Stanley from my Niece Lyndsay all around with us and he visited the horse park with us that night because next year the 2010 world equestrian games will be here...it's like the Olympics of horse stuff and we are one if not the only places (not European) to hold the event. Very big stuff for our little big city.

I really need to catch this blog/journal up on some developmental stuff so be patient as I list them for myself and Nick in the future.
. His handwriting is totally knocking my socks of these last few weeks. He has come so far since September when he was just scribbling. Below is his last spelling test which he got all right and the words were so neat. We were so proud!

. he is reading almost all of his sight words that have been given so far and can find most of them in books and read parts of books with us. So exciting to this family of readers!!
. he is (OF HIS OWN ACCORD) starting to make his bed, clean up his toys, and clean the table off! I love this boy! His Daddy has been the most awesome example for him in these areas!
. he has this incredible ability to remember stories and re-tell them. We love to hear bible stories and stories of his own creation....its amazing. He also has started telling us what his memory verses are after Sunday school. He is such a sponge.
. he has started asking us about bad words and what they mean. I suppose this has to do with school and things we have already told him to watch for like "stupid", "hate", "butt" and of course all the big ones. I didn't realize how hard it would be to explain about words that we shouldn't use because some of them aren't necessarily bad in some contexts, and, I NEVER realized how much Lucy in Charlie Brown holiday movies says Stupid....my goodness...kind of sad now that I see it thru parents eyes! Anyway, we decided to teach him about attitude instead so one day I tried to explain to him that most words are not "bad", it is usually the attitude or heart behind how you say it that is bad. So I verbally gave him some examples. For some reason it totally clicked with him and it is hilarious to hear him go around and explain it. He is so funny the way he changes his voice and attitude. I need to get it on Video....it's funnier that way.
. he is very slowly but surely starting to get the concepts of sports. He talks about his favorite team the Packers and he will stop and watch and listen to his dad talk about the game and explain it. He is soooo competitive that I can't decide if it will help or be a nightmare to put him in a league. We almost avoid playing board games with him because he pouts and has so much drama if he is not in the lead. The only one he does pretty well with is Trouble, the game not the state of being...he's good at that one too though! ;)
. he is 45.5 inches and almost 48 lbs....75th percentile in both ht and wt. He has grown now 8 1/2 inches since coming home. He wears 6 size pants and anywhere from 5-7 in shirts. His shoe size is about a 12 1/2.
. we had his OT full assessment and it was very interesting. I will write more on it later once we get one of the last tests done. He did well and had a few cautionary areas in motor planning and visual sensory processing. He may do some group therapy for several months but overall he has had deficits but has overcome them or learned new behavior in many of the OT areas on his own.
. He continues speech therapy and progressing with that program and vision-wise has stopped having to be patched for several hours a day on his stronger eye because the weak one is maintaining and giving full effort now. We like team players around here! ;)
. he continues to be very popular at school and has lots of friends. Libby and Emma continue to be his main "girl" friends. Emma told her mom the other day that she and Libby are fighting some to see who is going to marry Nick! His main pal right now is Jack and he will have to have some play dates with Jack soon as we are losing our ability to play outside after school on the playground with the frigid temps.
. his vocabulary is outstanding. Yay, educational television (martha speaks and word girl especially) He surprises himself sometimes with new words. He totally will say something like...."well, not (exactly). ...mom, what does exactly mean" Cracks us up because he always uses it correctly but still may not know what it means?? too funny!
Well, the one whom I am writing about is distracting me enough that I can't think of any more and have gotten up about a million times to deal with a star wars crisis.
I am planning a new years card/letter this year since I want to get some fun pics in the snow for our cards. So don't worry, it will come just not yet. I hope everyone is having a blessed season with their families and friends.
And, now I am getting ready to pack for Christmas?? What happened? Time SLOW down!
I truly can't believe this year has gone by so quickly. The holidays go by so fast now that they smoosh them all together. We saw Christmas stuff out at halloween?? Are you kidding? Well, regardless, it's here, isn't it. We have had a harder time this year keeping the toy count down. Nick is so into imaginative play with figures and accessories. I love the imaginext toys as does he. His other obsession of late is star wars figures. He has not seen the movie yet but boy does he like the action "figgers" as Nick would say. Nick has been a little crazy over what to get for Christmas....keeps changing his mind. So I just told him that mom and dad know what he likes so he will be surprised and like it! We have been also working on the " oh, thank you for this gift face" vs " why did you get me this stupid gift face"....he is getting pretty good at it! ;)
I am so ready to bring in some new toys and donate or sell the old that I have been a little less "grinch" this year and am allowing some extra toy purchases because I think they will last us a few more years with only a few accessory purchases maybe. We continue to get leapster 2 accessories as this is our Car toy of the century. We love it. He loves it. We have talked much about the reason for Christmas and he totally gets it so we are already starting to leave Santa out of the equation. I just don't feel there is that big of a need to get him all wrapped up in well, a lie, when he doesn't necessarily believe it anyway since he has only been here for half of his years so far. I want him to believe in the love and spirit of the season and just see Santa as one of the parts of the holiday like he does the easter bunny, etc. He has been so cute trying to explain to Amigo, our really old shepherd mix, the story of Jesus' birth and the reason for Christmas. Migs is such a willing listener even if he is hard of hearing! :)
Nick had his first Christmas performance at the elementary level and it was cute. My camera was totally not working and couldn't get the picture right no matter what....kept making the pictures dark. I am sure it was the operator but I couldn't for the life of me figure out what I was doing wrong......supposed to be a point and shoot?? not so sure.
It is funny how different things affect me since we have adopted. For example, when I could tell Nick was looking for me from his place on stage and then he found me and waved. All I could think was he's "attached" and it made me so happy....even almost 3 years later....it made me so happy.
He was really singing and performing this year. In times past, he was a silent performer with occasional movement but he was really interacting this time.
As I said before we are going to try and phase Santa out as the main center piece of the holiday but we have started the tradition of going to the Kentucky Horse park for their light show and train exhibit and well, Santa was there so why not. I don't think he really told him what he wanted because he kept telling us that he wanted to be "Naughty!" Yes, son ,but you have never needed Santa's help for that! :) But, I digress, we thought we were going to have to leave because they made the Santa line right next to this obnoxious booth of scented Rocks (think Yankee candle store) and Nick was hilarious. He thought they smelled so bad (they did) and strong that he wouldn't stand there. He seems to be very sensitive to smells and really could not focus......so we moved away and left daddy in line. Great daddy! We got an awesome pic with this not very good Santa.....his other facial hair is totally showing?? hello?! beard that fits please!
I just think Nick is so darn handsome and boy does he look like a big boy now. Just precious still!
We are currently taking Flat Stanley from my Niece Lyndsay all around with us and he visited the horse park with us that night because next year the 2010 world equestrian games will be here...it's like the Olympics of horse stuff and we are one if not the only places (not European) to hold the event. Very big stuff for our little big city.
I really need to catch this blog/journal up on some developmental stuff so be patient as I list them for myself and Nick in the future.
. His handwriting is totally knocking my socks of these last few weeks. He has come so far since September when he was just scribbling. Below is his last spelling test which he got all right and the words were so neat. We were so proud!
. he is reading almost all of his sight words that have been given so far and can find most of them in books and read parts of books with us. So exciting to this family of readers!!
. he is (OF HIS OWN ACCORD) starting to make his bed, clean up his toys, and clean the table off! I love this boy! His Daddy has been the most awesome example for him in these areas!
. he has this incredible ability to remember stories and re-tell them. We love to hear bible stories and stories of his own creation....its amazing. He also has started telling us what his memory verses are after Sunday school. He is such a sponge.
. he has started asking us about bad words and what they mean. I suppose this has to do with school and things we have already told him to watch for like "stupid", "hate", "butt" and of course all the big ones. I didn't realize how hard it would be to explain about words that we shouldn't use because some of them aren't necessarily bad in some contexts, and, I NEVER realized how much Lucy in Charlie Brown holiday movies says Stupid....my goodness...kind of sad now that I see it thru parents eyes! Anyway, we decided to teach him about attitude instead so one day I tried to explain to him that most words are not "bad", it is usually the attitude or heart behind how you say it that is bad. So I verbally gave him some examples. For some reason it totally clicked with him and it is hilarious to hear him go around and explain it. He is so funny the way he changes his voice and attitude. I need to get it on Video....it's funnier that way.
. he is very slowly but surely starting to get the concepts of sports. He talks about his favorite team the Packers and he will stop and watch and listen to his dad talk about the game and explain it. He is soooo competitive that I can't decide if it will help or be a nightmare to put him in a league. We almost avoid playing board games with him because he pouts and has so much drama if he is not in the lead. The only one he does pretty well with is Trouble, the game not the state of being...he's good at that one too though! ;)
. he is 45.5 inches and almost 48 lbs....75th percentile in both ht and wt. He has grown now 8 1/2 inches since coming home. He wears 6 size pants and anywhere from 5-7 in shirts. His shoe size is about a 12 1/2.
. we had his OT full assessment and it was very interesting. I will write more on it later once we get one of the last tests done. He did well and had a few cautionary areas in motor planning and visual sensory processing. He may do some group therapy for several months but overall he has had deficits but has overcome them or learned new behavior in many of the OT areas on his own.
. He continues speech therapy and progressing with that program and vision-wise has stopped having to be patched for several hours a day on his stronger eye because the weak one is maintaining and giving full effort now. We like team players around here! ;)
. he continues to be very popular at school and has lots of friends. Libby and Emma continue to be his main "girl" friends. Emma told her mom the other day that she and Libby are fighting some to see who is going to marry Nick! His main pal right now is Jack and he will have to have some play dates with Jack soon as we are losing our ability to play outside after school on the playground with the frigid temps.
. his vocabulary is outstanding. Yay, educational television (martha speaks and word girl especially) He surprises himself sometimes with new words. He totally will say something like...."well, not (exactly). ...mom, what does exactly mean" Cracks us up because he always uses it correctly but still may not know what it means?? too funny!
Well, the one whom I am writing about is distracting me enough that I can't think of any more and have gotten up about a million times to deal with a star wars crisis.
I am planning a new years card/letter this year since I want to get some fun pics in the snow for our cards. So don't worry, it will come just not yet. I hope everyone is having a blessed season with their families and friends.
Saturday, November 7, 2009
Halloween 2009
Just thought I would throw some pictures up from Halloween for the family. We have not had our assessment meeting with the OT with her results so I thought I would hold off on journaling until we get that report.
Nick went back and forth between being a Jedi or Darth.....it was good vs. bad for most of October. So since we were able to go to another occasion at a local park, he got to be both.....kind of like Anakin and Darth! ;)
There were games and a cool hiking trail that had characters dressed up at various points. Nick loved it! He did the trick or treat trail with his sweet cheetah girl, Emma.
And then......the dark side took over for halloween eve. My parents were in town so they stayed and gave out candy while we toured the neighborhood.
Daddy was resident Sherpa and padawan? (sp?) ...... the Darth helmet made all the noises and breathing and such....so cool. We had this bratty kid that happened upon us and was mad at Nick because they had similar outfits. Nick was so excited that someone matched him but this kid kept heckling him and saying ugly things. The kid's sister even tried to get him to be quiet...all the mom said was "use your manners"? How about use some DISCIPLINE and take the brat home. Nick would have been home immediately if he would have continued to act like this boy. We tried so hard to get away but they kept catching up. Nick just couldn't understand why the boy kept saying stuff and was mad. I thought Pat was going to smack him with the light saber.....yeah, the kid with the big mouth didn't even have a light saber....I had to control my "NIck looks cooler than you do" attitude. Had to show Nick how God would want us to act....boy is that hard sometimes. I'm not sure if I am ready for this whole unkind kid thing as he gets older. Nick call them "Bowlies"....so funny. At first, we didn't know what he was talking about but then he said his counselor came to their class to talk about Bowlies (bullies!) :)
OUR VERY COOL and VERY NICE DARTH VADER!
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